Remember me? I used to be a blogger.
I used to post three times a week. Some of you read my work. Some of you read it all the time, and encouraged me to keep writing. Remember when I posted regularly, and you all cheered me on. I do. I remember.
But lately, I’ve been treading water. No sense calling it writer’s block, when depression is the actual culprit. I suppose I saw it coming, from a distance. I started writing less and less–– always a sign that I’m losing my mojo, since writing is one of the surest ways I identify myself. “I’m a writer;” it took a long time to say that comfortably. No sooner did I start to get easy with the phrase, and I fell into a deep hole.
It’s been months of struggling. It’s been two years of processing and trying to figure out some hard things.
It’s been days and days of looking out the window and hoping this will pass.
It’s been visits with family and friends, where I push through and force a smile, and pull out the extrovert others expect–– while my introvert self flinches and cringes.
It’s been some days that were scary and darker than I care to write about… now.
It’s been tough. Really tough.
But, I am tougher
I am tougher.
I’m a writer. I’m a blogger. I will take my baby steps in words and phrases.
I am digging out. I’m writing a post to get back in the saddle. I’m looking at the dozens of drafts and partially written posts (because, well, I’m a writer. I may not have had the motivation or ability to put it out there, or even get out of my chair by the window, some days, but I have occasionally dipped my pen in the well), and I’m figuring out how to ride this horse again.
I’m challenging myself to really move forward. Baby steps, I just told someone dear, who is down further than I am now–– but not so far down that I don’t remember the view. It’s all about baby steps. It’s all about knowing that healing is always possible.
Always. Always. Always.
I don’t say that blithely. I am not out of the hole. The sides are slippery and high, but I know I can get out, baby step by baby step. I know I can keep putting pieces together and move toward a happier place. I believe in healing.
Always.
And while I haven’t been blogging, I have been slowly but steadily editing my novel (yes, again) and submitting chapters to my writing group. Because, I’m still a writer. Those have been important baby steps that my writing women have supported me through. Gratitude in heaps to their loving edits and nudges. Along the path of healing, there are so many people who hand you a lifeline, if you can look through the blue haze and see it. Some days, that little bit of writing has saved me. The sharp edge was scary close for a long while. And I admit: I stepped too close, more than once. But I grabbed the lifelines.
I used to be a blogger. The stats and comments meant everything. The reassurance from each of you was a dose of sunshine every week. And maybe I have to start all over. A lot of people figured I’m gone for good, and moved on. I miss some faces that used to make me smile. But, I’m back, and I’ll start where I have to.
I started the steps forward with a new hair cut. I’ve always thought that cutting my hair is a great way to reset my compass. It’s shaved very short all around, with a longer strip down the top/center. A wide mohawk, some might call it. I shaved my head as a reminder of the razor edge I don’t want to stand on anymore. Each time I look in the mirror, my hair reminds me that I’m stronger than the depression, anxiety and issues that yanked me off balance. I’ll step back and take the baby steps, until I’m on steady ground again. Some people don’t like my new look, while others see the determination it represents. For me, it’s a daily message: I look in the mirror and remind myself that I own the edge; the edge doesn’t own me.
So, I’m back. If you’re still here; I’m grateful. You have no idea–– or maybe you do, how much it means to me. If you’re new, welcome! My last post was in honor of my father and was much longer. I posted it exactly three months ago. It’s been a long three months. Check it out, get cozy and stay around. I’ll be posting again soon.
I used to be a blogger, and turns out: I still am. I’m taking baby steps in blogging, and this is step one. I hope you stick around; I could use the support.
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Good to see you’re back.
I know what you mean about that mojo thing. I declared 2017 the year I get my mojo back. I’m still waiting…
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Sometimes we have to dig in and just keep walking. You know, being VOTYs made it easy to feel like everything after was a let down… but baby steps. Thanks for stopping by, James! I don’t know if you’ve ever commented, but you know I love hearing from you! 🙂
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Dawn…as a guy who deals with BiPolar, PTSD, ADHD and a bunch of other ABCD Syndrome/Disorder/Stuff, hang in there my sweet friend. Just when things look the darkest, the Light will shine through. You just wrote my story. Thank you. Much love and respect…..Toby
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Toby, this means so much more than you can know! You have been such a support. I think of you so often and wish you healing thoughts. I do believe we can both take those steps forward, despite the ABCDs! Thanks for being there, now and all the time. You’r my rock star! xo
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Dawn….I have been healing for over 40 years, but you know what? I am still kickin hiney , takin’ names and enjoying every sunset I have left in my Lifetime. Try to remain as positive as possible, even when Life stinks. You’ll be fine. Trust me…if you dare. 😀 You have my email address and my Facebook ID….you need me, I am there. Go fishin’ and talk to the Creator. It helps a lot.
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Thanks my Fearless friend. xo
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I’m glad you’re back. I love your writing. I love your bare, raw, honest writing, something I haven’t quite been ready to do, to put it out there in print.I’ve started a few pieces though. And your haircut! I totally get the shorter and shorter. Not for any deep psychological reasoning – just it is so easy! Hope to sit with you this Fall, over a cuppa. Love you my dear friend!
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A cuppa and mama love are just what I need right now. You’re on friend. Love your words, and whenever you tell the stories, I’ll read them. xo
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I’m new here, but this post drew me in. It was brave of you, and so articulate. You certainly are a writer!
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Thanks so much Jan, and and welcome to Tales From the Motherland, and the world of blogging. There are so many great, great people out there sharing their stories. I know you’ll find your niche, and your audience. Thanks for taking the time to read my work and spread some love. I appreciate it right now… and always.
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I missed your writing. You are incredibly talented 🙂
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Lisa, thanks SO much, that means the world to me. I appreciate the sunshine you’ve shared today. 🙂
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It makes me so happy to read one of my favorite writer’s work again! You’re very talented at putting difficult things into words, both fiction and nonfiction. I always want to read what you have to say.
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Wow! Thanks so much N; that really means a lot. Hope we can sit down and share some actual words some time soon. xo
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Me too!
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You’re a writer! We all have setbacks and take breaks. Post -election, I felt I couldn’t write anything that made any sense of the world. Then there’s censorship imposed by my kids, so what’s left? So I starting back, infrequently, but trying to capture the wonders of daily life. Maybe trivial compared to the issues in the world, but I’m writing for my appreciative, albeit small, audience. Keep at it, Dawn, your fans are with every little step. xo
ps. love the haircut. You’re very brave. Not sure I could do it.
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Thanks so much Lisa; you have encouraged me the entire way. See, if nothing else, the friendships I’ve found via this blog are worth it! So glad we get to see each other soon! Something tells me my haircut will work better in your neck of the woods. 😉
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As I’m reading this and literally reading your lines about the edge, Lady Gaga is singing “On the edge of glory and I’m hanging on a moment with with you. ” you ‘ve got that edge, Dawn, and we’re hanging with you. 😚
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Thanks Lynn; I love Gaga, and appreciate both of you hanging on with me. 🙂
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Hello, dear Friend. Love the haircut and the post, Dawn. You have always inspired me with your wonderful heartfelt writing and your courage to share so many of the aspects of your life and your insights. I will always be a fan and I so appreciate you!
Cathy
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Cathy, you have been in my head and heart throughout these months. So glad we got to connect as I was digging out. I SO appreciate you as well. Thanks friend. xox
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Keep taking them…baby steps!!!
I’ve learned the best quality I have is being resilient! Life throws us things no one could imagine, too many to list. Best you can do, keep trying. Trying your best, even if it’s just surviving! Also, encouraging, like you’re doing now through your blog!
Sending you positive vibes and healing love! Remember, you are not alone in your struggle.
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Thanks so much Barbara, and welcome to TFTM. The advice and support is very appreciated!
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Good to have you back, Dawn. I like the new do- it puts your loveliness front and center. xoxo
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Thanks Brenda. I have so many wonderful blogs to read, from writing friends like you, who I’ve neglected. Head in the sand, I’ve missed you all! Thanks for the love. xox
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Brave. Keep on healing and keep on writing.
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Thanks Marian; your support is always appreciated. xo
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Hi, Dawn. Your writing is powerful, articulate, and honest. I think about you often and hope you keep moving step by step away from the edge and into a place that is comforting and supports you to fully reconnect with your vibrancy and passion. Everytime I go to my bookclub, I wish you were there, too, to share your perspectives and ideas.
Sending you love and hugs.
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It’s been so long, Susan, and your support and impact still resonates. Thank you SO much for your encouragement and positive support. Sending love and hugs back at you!
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I love your hair and what it represents for you, and I love the honesty of your writing. I haven’t blogged anything myself for ages but will take this post as a nudge to also get back in the saddle.
Stay strong my friend xx
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Yes, let’s get back in the saddle together! One post, and one step at a time friend! From one side of the pond to the other, mad love. xo
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Sorry to hear you’re going through such a rough patch. These crazy times and world events don’t help either. I love your new haircut though! Makes you look young, strong, and determined. 😊
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Thanks Carrie! It’s been a rough few years, actually, and yes: current events do NOT help. Admittedly, most of this lies squarely off the orange monster’s shoulders, but some days that just makes me want to dig a bigger hole! ALWAYS happy to see you in my comments, and appreciate the support you’ve given over and over again.
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Dawn, I have no idea what you’ve been going through, but I’m so happy to read that your workin’ your way back. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Dawn)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
janet
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Janet, Thank you SO much! I feel the love and I’m really grateful. xox
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Good to see you again, Dawn! Wow, you’re working on your novel! Yep, you’re a writer.
Some of the best words of encouragement I’ve received are, “Keep moving forward “. And Tinkerbell’s advice to “Think lovely thoughts “.
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I keep Tink at the bottom of every blog post, to remind me of magic, and the fact that “I do believe in fairies!” Thanks for the wonderfully kind words of support; their both much appreciated!
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Pick up the pen and think of yr sweet little grandson!
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Indeed, Laura. He certainly dragged me out of the darkest days… and the pen, alas… I’m working on it! Thanks for the encouragement amiga!
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Dawn…I love this blog. Good writing makes you stop and think. More importantly, it makes you feel. You made me feel. Keep writing. Hugs ❤️
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Thanks so much June; it means a lot to know that my writing touched you. Thanks for the kind words! ❤
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Welcome back!!
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Thanks so much!
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You’ve been in my thoughts. Been struggling too, since late winter. Not exactly depression, but a bit of hell as well. Glad you published this. I know about writing lots of drafts and days when I can’t even string coherent thoughts together in my head, never mind write. Like today. Keep taking those baby steps.
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I am always so inspired by how you keep going Susan. While I’ve had my head in a hole, not reading much, I keep the posts to read later and love that you keep writing and sharing! Head up, baby steps blogging friend. xo
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Thanks!
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Dawn, I empathize with your story as you share your innermost personal thoughts and forge on courageously. You are a deep thinking and feeling person, which makes you vulnerable when life comes at you in larger than bite-size chunks. I have been there, near the abyss. It is a dark and forbidding place. Fortunately, I had people to guide me back. I hope you take advantage of that, too. You can see from the comments that you are surrounded by people who love and appreciate you. Like the rest of your fans, I am here to cheer you on and to celebrate your successes! – Mike
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Mike, thank you SO much for finding me here in this space, and helping build a friendship out of it. I really appreciate your kind, supportive words and feedback, and steady presence. Thanks for being here.
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So much beauty and strength, in your words, in your person (new haircut especially!), and even in your time away. Good to see you back. I never doubted you for a second, writer friend, and I never will. xo
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Thanks Jen. So wish we could walk a beach (any beach) right now, and dig into these spaces. I appreciate your love and support. xo
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Nice hearing from you again ❤ And you know – as long as you are still breathing it’s not to late for a change ☺
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It’s such a hopeful thing to know that this is always true, Laila. Thanks for your kind words; they are much appreciated!
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I am so happy to see you writing again. I definitely understand the loss of mojo and fighting depression. I am truly proud to see you be so forthcoming and put forth the effort. I look forward to reading more as you go. I know you can defeat the hole, baby step by baby step. ❤️
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Thanks Jackie! Your continued and wonderful support of my writing means so much. Meeting folks like you is what keeps me going, and I really appreciate your support. Thanks so much! xo
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You have inspired me so much in my own blogging journey so I am very happy to pay it forward.
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So glad to see you. Many can feel, and share, your story. We lead and follow you on to forward.
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Thanks for stopping by Tales From the Motherland, Lilie; I appreciate your kind words!
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As Eileen says, “I love the bones of you!!” Looking forward to being with you. You are such an inspiration to me. Your courage takes my breath away. 143
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I love your bones right back, friend. I’m counting the days!! 143 always.
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Wonderful to see your face, the new hair, your words, even if they aren’t the happiest words ever, oh boy do I relate.
Big virtual hugs,
Kath
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Thanks so much Kath! I am always happy to have your energy and support in my comments. Thanks for being here, always! I feel the hug.
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Love your new ‘do! Welcome back! I’m struggling with a lot of the same. Not depression so much (which I’ve dealt with most of my life plus anxiety) but simple lack of mojo. I used to feel that magical push to write, but it seems to have faded away. I struggle just to get a short post out now. Once I do write, I hate every word I’ve written. Gah! I keep telling myself if I can start cranking out more posts, the writing will flow easier, but I am stuck. I’m sick of how I write (does that make any sense?) It’s old and boring and blah. I need something new and fresh. Anyway, sorry for the ramble—good to “see” you on WordPress again. 🙂
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So glad you wrote this. That’s it for me. I’m sick of how I write. I feel like I keep writing the sane thing so why spend the time (but if I spent the time perhaps I would eventually write something new, right? But still…) Wondering if this is the cycle of blogging for most?
On the other hand, Dawn, you always seem to have such variety. So get back to it! (When you feel right about it, of course.)
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We all see ourselves SO differently than others do. I feel like my writing falls so flat and boring, and the two of you inspire me. That my words inspire you, in any way, is humbling and meaningful. Thanks for the virtual, writerly, powerful hug.
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Darla, your “ramble” sums up everything I feel about writing right now. So many things adding to my dark spots, but my inability to write really feeds my blues. It’s sad to know that so many of us feel this way, but I am happy to be in such loving, understanding, supportive company. Know that I’ve got your back too. Love your writing and stand with you.
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I’m so glad you’re back, writer! Strong, gut-punchy, vulnerable. You, your writing, and your new hair are inspiring. xo
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Thanks so much Victoria; I am grateful for your kind and supportive words.
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am glad you’re back but mortified to hear about the reasons you were gone I feel a sense of kinship, a feeling that I should have known when I actually barely know you. But that’s who you are. You draw people near and we care and we miss and we wish you well and we wish you better. I am sorry I have been the emotional “taker” by virtue of my HD. It’s not fair to you. I am here for you too. Love.
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You have NEVER been a taker, Sarah. I get so much support from you, and heave never thought otherwise. Do NOT turn my shit in on yourself. It’s mine. We know each other thru’ our writing, and a lovely day spent face to face, and I believe that’s so much more impactful than most can imagine. It’s real and raw. Thanks for your support friend, I feel it! Love, right back at you!
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Welcome back Dawn and I look forward to resuming reading you. I’m familiar with the abyss and I envy your Mohawk (my daughter said I look like a cone-head when I’ve tried to grow the middle stripe so I just keep it at 1/4″ all around). Raise your eyes up everyday and set your determined chin forward…march!
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Thanks so much Buzz! I love your hair, but don’t listen to your daughter… they grow up and leave. 😉 I appreciate the support, thanks! Marching… slowly, but forward.
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I was just thinking about your blogs the other day, wondering if you were still working them. Have missed you on Friday Fictioneers, although I know, absolutely, that sometimes one must step back, take breath or two or twenty-five or . . . before tentatively putting a foot back in the ring to test the vibrations of lifel. Welcome back, friend, welcome.
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I may dip my feet in the flash pond soon, but I want to focus on my blog for a while, first. I appreciate the support Lish!
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Dawn, I’m so very sorry to hear about your recent journey. I wondered why I hadn’t seen you around lately. So glad you’re starting to write again. Hoping your writing will give you the leg up you need, and with “baby steps” you’ll be able to seize the day again. Keeping you in my prayers.
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Dawn, you speak for many … blessings. Keep taking little steps until you’re ready to fly. ❤
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Thanks so much Susan. I’m grateful for the inspiring words.
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I was glad to see you show up once again. I treasure your writings, and have forwarded many of your blogs on.
Today is a new beginning for me- my 55th birthday, and retirement after more than 34 years in the same job. I’ve been fighting depression, health issues, and all that comes with getting older. But, it’s a new day. I carry around a notepad with ideas and plans of what I want to do. The start- a new puppy that I adopted a few days ago. So, here’s to lifting the fog, and brighter times ahead for us both.
Baby steps…
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Sharon, Mazel Tov! What an incredible series of new things for you! Working at any job for 34 years is something to be really proud of! You were a baby when you started, and now you are in your prime! Embrace that 55 and make it the start of better health, a dog who loves you, and a notebook full of bucket list items that you check off! Thanks for sharing my work, encouraging me, and inspiring me to walk along too! Yes, baby steps!
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Baby steps and beautiful soulful blue eyes– good to see you weaving your tender, brave thoughts and battles, Dawn. Keep going and I will keep reading.
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Audra, that means the world; thanks! The feeling is entirely mutual. xo
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I admit, I’ve selfishly missed your writing. The journeys, the heartache, the sarcasm, the giggles. But it’s yours. And I love it, and you, just the way you are. If you weren’t as sensitive, you’d miss so many of the subtleties in life. And that would show in your writing. Allowing yourself to take a break, that takes courage. Baby steps, giant steps, any steps you need to breathe, heal, grow. The quality of your writing does not depend on the quantity, but you know that. You’ve got amazing strength in there, I’ve seen it. I’m so glad that it’s still with you. I so wish we weren’t on opposite coasts. Virtual hugs are nice, but… y’know? ❤143
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Forgot to say how much you ROCK that haircut!!!
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And that too. Thanks! xo
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Val, you are always such an incredible reminder of love and friendship. I really appreciate your kind words. If I could see myself the way you do, well… wouldn’t that be lovely. Thanks so much. xox
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I’m still here. I’ve missed you!
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Thanks so much!
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Welcome back. I, too, lost my motivation to blog last year when my father passed away. I decided to archive the blog and am just now (10 months later) considering reviving it again. Not sure, though. Meanwhile, I self-published a collection of essays titled Musing Off the Mat, which is the name of my blog. It’s a “best of” blog posts based on reader feedback. I wanted to have something for my daughters to hold and keep from my blogging days. You can buy it on Amazon.
Good luck. Keep writing!
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Thanks Joyce. I’m so sorry about your father. It’s a painful loss, and no doubt writing isn’t always the answer. May you find strength going forward. I appreciate your kind words of encouragement; thank you!
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Love the haircut Dawn. You know, I’m very hit and miss around here….but I always look for you 🙂
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Thanks Annie; it means so much. xo
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Hi Dawn, welcome back .
I really needed to read your words . Precisely at this moment I happen to be standing in my own gym that my sister and I had opened two weeks ago (crazy, I’ve been out of the loop here too ) and spent half hour bawling on the floor for no other discernable reason than that I am profoundly sad. I don’t know if it’s the placebo effect, but somehow reading words that I’m sure we all know are true within us, it helps . So thank you.
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Whatever helps, I’m glad… get up, dust yourself off, and do some squats, Ducky! Love your passion and drive.
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Hi Dawn,
I came across your blog and am inspired by your courage. Courage to get up and start again- courage to process- courage to be vulnerable. I look forward to reading more. Love the Stefan GIF and fairy dust!!!
Stephanie
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Welcome to Tales From the Motherland, Stephanie, and thanks for your kind words. I appreciate you taking a chance on a new space, and your thoughtful words of encouragement. We could all use some fairy dust, right? 😉
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Doing the wave for you right now, Dawn! Stay strong and keep moving forward!
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Thanks Treva; waving back… granted, a bit limper than in the past, but working on it. 😉
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Super post and you still are a blogger but mainly a writer I think. I enjoyed this very much – I like your style☘️🎈
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Thanks so much for the kind words; they inspire me. The writer me and the blogger me. 😉
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